Fact or just complaining?

Today at work someone was stating something and I said it was a fact. Another worker said it was complaining. I then said there is a difference from stating facts or complaining. He said in his mind they are one in the same. He is somewhat right. Both can be one in the same and I will explain as this blog goes on.

First I will describe what facts are in the way I see them. It is a fact if you tell someone the time or the temperature. It is also a fact if you let people know how many hours you have to work or how much your gas bill is. When you state something that can not be denied , it is a fact.

Now here is where the two can merge together. If you state a fact with a sour look on your face and whine about a fact, then it can be taken as a complaint. Instead of just saying it is 6:30 P.M. with no off kilter body language or a different pitched voice, it’s a fact. But if you act like you are about to cry or yell that it’s only 6:30 P.M. and throw in some cuss words, then yes that fact will sound like you are complaining. Remember , it’s how you say something and the way you act when you say it. You can turn a fact into a complaint.

Now here is where a complaint is a complaint no matter how you say it. If you use words or phrases like ; Why me? How come I…? Why the F… are you looking at me? Damit , I only have a quarter!!! Throwing in expletives and the why’s,how come’s, and the you are always …., type of quotes. Those will always sound bad and will always be looked at as complaining, no matter how big of a grin you have on your face and how nice your voice is when you say them.

Opinions can be looked at as complaining. If you say that it is hot or cold out, others may say ” stop you whining”. When in fact you just stated your opinion. It’s all in your tone of voice and your body language.

Remember how to keep facts as facts, so the outside people looking in do not think you are complaining. It’s your tone of voice, your body language, and the words you use and the order in how you use them.

P.S. Complaining behind closed doors every now and then is good so that you don’t get stressed out. It’s called venting, just do not do it in public or when you want to state a true fact.

14,000,000 X 20 = 280,000,000 Affected . The Kevin Bacon Theory.

When 1 person gets laid off, in my opinion it affects more than just that person. I think some people tend to think it only has an impact on the unemployed. When someone is unemployed it affects at least 20 people in at least 2 ways. Those ways are emotionally and financially.

Let’s start with the emotionally way first. The unemployed person is so stressed out it affects the family and friends because those close to that person worry about his or hers future. Some of those worries may turn into arguments due to displaced anger. The worries can lead to building huge walls around that person due to fear. They may need to go talk to a professional if their worries gets too deep, and they have no money to pay.

The money issue is another aspect of hurting at least 20 people around the unemployed. When you collect unemployment, you have to make cutbacks. The cutbacks you make affect those people because they are getting less money, like the utility companies, the gas stations , the restaurants, the grocery stores, and so on . Then you cut back on money for your children, they can not go to the movies or go to hardly any activities at the school that cost money. Then you have family or friends who may help you out at times, that takes money out of their pockets and they spend less at places they patronized. This is a huge domino effect.

So the only people it may not affect are the rich (1%) because they have no feelings for the unemployed ( they are the ones who decide to lay off), and we do not shop at the same stores as they do. So next time you see someone asking for change on the corner or know of someone unemployed remember the number 280,000,000 . That number is the bare minimum that is affected right now. We can do better !!!

If you think the occupy is shrinking in numbers because of the weather, and of the number of people at the sites, think again. This is about getting the United States fixed and strong like it once was before a lot of the jobs have been disbursed due to greed.

QUOTE OF THE DAY ; Sometimes you just have to trust your intuition . (William Gates, Microsoft )

A Champion or Self Gratifier ( lazy bragger ) ?

I have noticed there are two kinds of people in this world. A self gratifier ( a lazy bragger ) or a true champion. What one are you ?

A self gratifier is one who will sit on their butt and do nothing when no one is around. They will take credit for work they did not do. When others are around they will be the ones who will then work hard to get noticed , and then act like they work like that all the time. They are also the ones who just want the spot light on them , and that is all they care about. They are not a true team player.When the truth is they are very lazy and have this grandiose attitude about themselves. This happens so much in the world of sports and at the work place. I know that you know people like this. If you don’t then maybe you are this type of person.

A true champion is one who works their tail off even when they are the only one in the room. They are the ones who show up to work early or stay late to get a job done. They are the least concerned about employee of the month award. They are the athlete who will sweat their butt off when they are the only one in the weight room or gym. They will play their butt off even if there are only 3 people in the stands. A true champion is not concerned about awards. They will do what it takes to make the company or team a better place to be. If you do not know of anyone like this, then maybe YOU are the true champion .

What one have you been ? And what one will you be from this point forward.

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QUOTE OF THE DAY ; We must teach our children to dream with open eyes. ( Harry Edwards ).

 

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