Be like Grandma.

25 Aug

I have been wanting to write this for some time now. I finally have the time and I am emotionally ready to write this. Back in October 2018 My mother called and said that Grandma is in the hospital and she is very sick. We all were thinking and hoping she would be out in a few days. That was not the case. She progressively became sicker as time went on. I was sad to hear this because my Grandma was such a caring and loving lady. She lived a simple life yet she knew how to handle her business while making things happen with what she had in her life. My grandmother even owned her own hair salon back when women were to just stay home and cook. She was always ahead of her time. She loved life and everyone regardless of who, what, or where they came from.

October 19th, 2018 my mother said that the doctor told her that Grandma K may not make it past the weekend. I started to cry ( I’m getting choked up writing this, this is tough). I texted my mom asking if I can talk to grandma K one more time. She said yes. I was trying so hard to not cry or sound sad when my mom called so I could talk to grandma K ( I am wiping tears off my face now as I type this). When my mother handed the phone to my grandmother, my grandmother asked: “is this Chad”? Even at the age of 100 yrs and 6 months while not doing so well she still could tell I was on the other end of the phone. Throughout life when I would call her she always would say: “this must be Chad”, then she would laugh, she loved to laugh. She could always tell who I was by the sound of my voice.

The first thing she said to me while taking deep breaths while in the hospital bed was: ” Chad you need to go take care of your granddaughter and daughter, be the best grandfather and father you can possibly be”. I was hyperventilating, I didn’t want her to know how sad I was while she was in the state she was in. It was the toughest phone call yet the most important loving phone conversation. Grandma K then proceeded to say: ” she was the best mom she could have been, she did her best and raised her children the best she could, being a good parent is the most important thing in life”. In the background, I heard my mom and her sister ( I could not tell who it was) say:” you are the best mom and you did an outstanding job raising us kids ( while they were sniffling from the sadness). Grandma K then said: “you need to get off the phone and go take care of your lovely family, I’ll be okay, do not worry about me”.  The phone call lasted 3 minutes, the saddest yet the best 3-minute phone call I will have for a very long time.

Man, this is so tough to type, the tears are flowing like a flooded river!

Even in the last few hours of my grandmothers’ life, she was talking about family. She didn’t utter a word about, money, jobs, cars, clothes, houses, bank accounts, or anything else that would not go with her in the afterlife.

To her family and the way you treat others was the most important thing in life. So important that is all she talked about with me on the last phone call I had with her on October 19th,2018. I wish everyone in this world would act like Grandma K. We can all learn from her.

I feel like she is still watching over me even though she passed away early in the morning of October 21st,2018. She loved Butterflies. This summer I have seen more butterflies than I have in the last 30 years, some even will follow me when I’m outside walking or be on my car as I drive. Some people believe cardinals are family members watching over them, in this case, it’s butterflies, Grandma K loved butterflies.

Let’s all act like Grandma K and remember what’s important in life: The way we treat others with kindness and making sure family comes before material items.

 

Uber your goals, Lyft your dreams.

1 Nov

I have been driving as an Uber and Lyft driver on the side to make a few dollars. It has been a fun experience and I love it. Each time I set out to drive, I have a destination in mind that I think will be the hotspot for the day. I will turn on the Apps and start the drive to my destination. It never fails and I get pinged to pick riders up before I get to my destination. Now this is a good thing since I am making money. What most of these rides do is take me further and further away from my destination.

All I can do is sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride. If I get upset because my rides are taking me further from where I want to be, I will upset the rider and not enjoy my day. So in other words, just go with it. After about 4-5 hours of driving Uber and Lyft riders around, I notice something, I am at my destination after all with money earned.

Why not live life like an Uber or Lyft driver? Have a goal or destination in mind , but let life’s journey take you wherever life’s events take you. Setting a time on your goals or destinations with a set path will make life frustrating. If you just turn on your daily app with a smile and let things happen ( like I do as an Uber , Lyft driver) life will be way more enjoyable. If you force a certain path in life , you will miss out on the journey . It’s like me passing up on the rides just to get to my destination faster, I would have missed out on meeting new people and not making money along the way.

Your time will come when your life’s Uber or Lyft app will say it’s time to end up at your destination or goal. So enjoy the ride in life and learn from the turns you will take to reach your destination.

Time is subjective.

Historic Eyesores

14 Aug

Recently there has been a huge outcrying from White supremacists concerning statues (on top of their obvious hate towards others). These fools say that these statutes relating to the civil war are a part of history. They are a part of history, and a negative part at that. There is another part of our history , that’s shitting our diapers as children. Do we hold onto that part of history? Hell no, unless you are a white supremacist I guess.

The only reason these fools want to keep these negative eyesores out in the public for display, is for intimidation purposes only. History is written in words. But then again most white supremacists can not read.  These fools want to keep intimidating ugly eyesores out in the open only to make them feel empowered. They are losing their “white superiority ” status, this is their last cry for power. There are places in the south that still have “whites only “, “colored only” signs. Why? Intimidation, nothing more, nothing less. Fredericksburg, Virginia still has slave auction blocks on display in some of their parks. Why? Intimidation purposes only. It has nothing to do with history. History can be read, and should be. Words make you think, images are to stimulate your emotions, good or bad. If you read about a naked man or woman, it makes you think. If you see a naked man or woman, it gets you stimulated. Same thing for these negative ugly history images that the white supremacists love.

These ugly eyesores are in the same category as a diaper full of shit.  You throw away the shit filled diaper, or you will get a rash and smell up the place. Same Thing for these ugly racist historic images, they will cause a rash among Americans and stink up the place. They need to go, unless you are a white supremacists with a  diaper full of shit.

I do not want to go back to shit filled diapers. I also do not think most humans want to go back to the days of these racist images.

Words Do Matter

16 Jun

WORDS DO MATTER.
Its messed up with what happened to the congressmen/ladies and the cops in DC. There’s no excuse, except nuts should not be allowed to own guns. Liberals have been saying this for years.

Ted Nugent of all people is saying “maybe we need to tone down the rhetoric”. He is the same guy who said that president Obama and Hillary can suck on his gun, and other threats. Sarah Palin had a poster of bulls-eyes on congressmen, one of them was the guy who was shot in the hip.

Us “snowflake” liberals have been saying for years that this kind of talk, behavior is not acceptable. No one on the other-side of the tracks said a word, but called us names all day long. Now that someone got attacked by a nut-job, it needs to be toned down? It should have been toned down a long time ago. We have a sitting president who said he could still win if he shot someone on 5th ave. and his supporters cheered.

Political correctness and being polite does matter.
Yet still liberals are being called all kinds of names and that we are all terrorists, all because of one asshole. What about the ALT right, racist hate groups who support the president and have been killing people due to their race, and/or religion?

This has to stop. WORDS DO MATTER!!!!!

How to end Racism.

16 Nov

This blog is about ending racism. It is so easy to point out racism or wrong doings of other ethnic groups. Doing so diverts attention from the real issue, that’s racism within your own ethnic group. Every ethnic group has some form of racism, but to deny it or not fight it is saying you agree with racism. The fastest way to accept bad behavior is to keep quiet.

I know I am not the only one who has been told that I am the reason racism is alive, that I am the one race baiting. What I do will point out the racist ways within my ethnic group , others in my ethnic group tell me to shut up about it, and then racism will go away. I disagree with that logic.  It is the same logic of letting your child mouth off or call the other parent names while you sit back and say nothing. When both parents do not band together, the child thinks the quiet parent agrees with that child’s bad behavior. That way of thinking only allows the child to act worse day after day.

If you want racism to end, you have to address the cancer within your ethnic group.When you have a medial issue, do you address it and fix it, or do you ignore it thinking it will go away? When you see it, you have to step up and call the person(s) out and stand up for the victim. It’s not a hard concept to do, it’s just a hard concept to accept.

We as humans need to get rid of this cancer in our own ethnic groups, so stand up and end it in your ethnic group. Stop ignoring it , it will not go away unless you chase it away.

My DNA ethnicity results. Surprising!

16 Jul

A while back I decided to do a DNA test just to see what my ethnic makeup is. I got the results back and I was surprised as to what I am and what I am not. I have been watching many videos on YouTube and seeing the surprising results.

I have also realized as to how interwoven our DNA results are. Believe it or not we are more alike than we are not. Even though we all look differently with skin and hair.Not all fair-skinned folks are 100% European, and not all darker skinned folks are 100% African. Our DNA proves we are much more connected  than one would think.

With all of these hate groups, discrimination and killings going on ; I would suggest more people do a DNA test to see that they probably have the ethnicity that they hate so much within their own DNA. Everything that we believe is taught from a very early age. We are taught to hate or love certain ethnicity, religions, or sexual groups. If you let science show you the way, it will show how wrong you were taught from an early age.

Even if you are 100% European or 100% African, you still may have certain European or African tribes/Groups in you that you have been taught to hate. Teaching negative ideas is what is wrong with this world. I hope that changes , we all need love and not hate.

Watch my video and see what I’m made up with. YouTube link to my DNA results.

 

Black lives matter.

9 Sep

Yes I agree that Black lives matter. I also think that all lives matter no matter the race or ethnicity of the individual. There is nothing wrong with peaceful protests when an unarmed African-American / black person is gunned down by a cop.

As a white man on the outside looking in, I have a few questions and points to make. Since Black lives matter, where is the outrage within the African-American / black community when gangs take over a neighborhood and killings happen? Since Black lives matter, where is the outrage when schools close down in the African-American / black communities? Since Black lives matter where is the outrage with the parents when their kids drop out of school or fail classes? Since Black lives matter, where is the outrage when a young African-American / black woman has children out-of-wedlock or the man does not stick around to be in the child’s life? If the African-American / black community would protest for these sad reasons, then the protests for cops killing unarmed African-American/ black people would be more legitimate to others.

I as a white man would love to see communities in the African-American / black communities protest and have uprisings to squash gangs, school dropouts, unwed woman giving birth to fatherless kids, schools closings, and so on. I also think the “stop snitching” attitude within the African-American /  black community hurts the Black lives matter movement. If Black lives matter, then people would snitch all day long. Peer-pressure is a strong thing to have on your side.

Are there unwed mothers and crime in other communities? Yes there are, I just want to see the Black lives matter succeed and I think addressing these issues within the community; that is when Black lives matter will work for the better.

That’s my two cents.

It starts with breakfast and ends with supper!

9 Jun

pizzaWhile i was eating this burnt pizza, I was thinking about today’s society and the way humans behave. I had to eat this burnt pizza because I had no other choice. I had to eat what was put in front of me ( due to no other food or money to buy other foods) and I had to be happy with what I had. This way of thinking was instilled in my mind at an early age from my parents. If I didn’t eat what was in front of me, I went without. I had to learn to deal with what was in front of me at an early age. That type of thinking transcends to all parts of my life.  Unlike what I see others doing ; others complain and whine like a spoiled brat.

I think people who whine and complain about what’s in front of them starts with breakfast and ends with supper. I see and hear stories of parents making 5 different meals so their kids can eat what they like and not learn to eat what’s in front of them. That has caused a ripple effect in the way our society acts today. Look around you, you will see selfish acting adults/ children because they ate what they wanted, not what was given to them.  Kids and adults alike who have a hard time dealing with what’s in front of them, go off in a tantrum and/or commit crimes ; crimes of passion or crimes that make no sense what so ever, all because they were raised to eat what they liked ;  not what was put in front of them.  They will make bad personal and/or business decisions all because they have a hard time dealing with what’s in front of them. If only parents acted like parents and made their kids eat what they made, regardless if the child liked it or not.

Society will only get better if parents stop making multiple meals and just make one meal and walk off.  Think about it.

Video

National Commercial and Youtube.

10 May

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9tSOfq6RcIs This commercial ran during the Winter Olympics. I am the cop in this National Commercial for Liberty University. Take a look and watch this National Commercial. It’s only 30 seconds long.

Reposition your body in the bed of life. A new perspective.

28 Jan

Yesterday I had some moles removed , and I now have stitches in my body. It made it difficult to lay in bed; so I had to reposition my body so I could lay down and watch T.V. until I fell asleep. While I was watching T.V. from another angle, I was thinking to myself that this old T.V. looks like a new one from this angle.

I got to thinking, maybe people need to change their mind, body, and logical way of thinking in life; they may see things differently and not be so closed-minded or stubborn.  I see too many people who will stay in the same mindset no matter how much mental pain they are in. This world would be more tolerant if folks would just roll over their mind, or turn around and see what’s going on behind them. If they would just open their minds up, they will see their old way  of thinking as not much fun as the new way. Take your mind or head and turn it over and try acting like the old way is in pain and you need to give it a rest.

So give your old ways a rest and look at life from another angle. You may think life is grand again and really enjoy what’s around you ; and the folks you disagreed with may be the folks you agree with after you roll over and see things from another angle.

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