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Be like Grandma.

25 Aug

I have been wanting to write this for some time now. I finally have the time and I am emotionally ready to write this. Back in October 2018 My mother called and said that Grandma is in the hospital and she is very sick. We all were thinking and hoping she would be out in a few days. That was not the case. She progressively became sicker as time went on. I was sad to hear this because my Grandma was such a caring and loving lady. She lived a simple life yet she knew how to handle her business while making things happen with what she had in her life. My grandmother even owned her own hair salon back when women were to just stay home and cook. She was always ahead of her time. She loved life and everyone regardless of who, what, or where they came from.

October 19th, 2018 my mother said that the doctor told her that Grandma K may not make it past the weekend. I started to cry ( I’m getting choked up writing this, this is tough). I texted my mom asking if I can talk to grandma K one more time. She said yes. I was trying so hard to not cry or sound sad when my mom called so I could talk to grandma K ( I am wiping tears off my face now as I type this). When my mother handed the phone to my grandmother, my grandmother asked: “is this Chad”? Even at the age of 100 yrs and 6 months while not doing so well she still could tell I was on the other end of the phone. Throughout life when I would call her she always would say: “this must be Chad”, then she would laugh, she loved to laugh. She could always tell who I was by the sound of my voice.

The first thing she said to me while taking deep breaths while in the hospital bed was: ” Chad you need to go take care of your granddaughter and daughter, be the best grandfather and father you can possibly be”. I was hyperventilating, I didn’t want her to know how sad I was while she was in the state she was in. It was the toughest phone call yet the most important loving phone conversation. Grandma K then proceeded to say: ” she was the best mom she could have been, she did her best and raised her children the best she could, being a good parent is the most important thing in life”. In the background, I heard my mom and her sister ( I could not tell who it was) say:” you are the best mom and you did an outstanding job raising us kids ( while they were sniffling from the sadness). Grandma K then said: “you need to get off the phone and go take care of your lovely family, I’ll be okay, do not worry about me”.  The phone call lasted 3 minutes, the saddest yet the best 3-minute phone call I will have for a very long time.

Man, this is so tough to type, the tears are flowing like a flooded river!

Even in the last few hours of my grandmothers’ life, she was talking about family. She didn’t utter a word about, money, jobs, cars, clothes, houses, bank accounts, or anything else that would not go with her in the afterlife.

To her family and the way you treat others was the most important thing in life. So important that is all she talked about with me on the last phone call I had with her on October 19th,2018. I wish everyone in this world would act like Grandma K. We can all learn from her.

I feel like she is still watching over me even though she passed away early in the morning of October 21st,2018. She loved Butterflies. This summer I have seen more butterflies than I have in the last 30 years, some even will follow me when I’m outside walking or be on my car as I drive. Some people believe cardinals are family members watching over them, in this case, it’s butterflies, Grandma K loved butterflies.

Let’s all act like Grandma K and remember what’s important in life: The way we treat others with kindness and making sure family comes before material items.


14,000,000 X 20 = 280,000,000 Affected . The Kevin Bacon Theory.

30 Oct

When 1 person gets laid off, in my opinion it affects more than just that person. I think some people tend to think it only has an impact on the unemployed. When someone is unemployed it affects at least 20 people in at least 2 ways. Those ways are emotionally and financially.

Let’s start with the emotionally way first. The unemployed person is so stressed out it affects the family and friends because those close to that person worry about his or hers future. Some of those worries may turn into arguments due to displaced anger. The worries can lead to building huge walls around that person due to fear. They may need to go talk to a professional if their worries gets too deep, and they have no money to pay.

The money issue is another aspect of hurting at least 20 people around the unemployed. When you collect unemployment, you have to make cutbacks. The cutbacks you make affect those people because they are getting less money, like the utility companies, the gas stations , the restaurants, the grocery stores, and so on . Then you cut back on money for your children, they can not go to the movies or go to hardly any activities at the school that cost money. Then you have family or friends who may help you out at times, that takes money out of their pockets and they spend less at places they patronized. This is a huge domino effect.

So the only people it may not affect are the rich (1%) because they have no feelings for the unemployed ( they are the ones who decide to lay off), and we do not shop at the same stores as they do. So next time you see someone asking for change on the corner or know of someone unemployed remember the number 280,000,000 . That number is the bare minimum that is affected right now. We can do better !!!

If you think the occupy is shrinking in numbers because of the weather, and of the number of people at the sites, think again. This is about getting the United States fixed and strong like it once was before a lot of the jobs have been disbursed due to greed.

QUOTE OF THE DAY ; Sometimes you just have to trust your intuition . (William Gates, Microsoft )

Burnt Boiled Eggs

19 Oct

A while back I was hungry for boiled eggs. So I put the eggs in the pot and went on about my business. About 1.5 hours later I smelt this funny smell and heard the popping noise. I then remembered I had eggs in the pot. I got to the stove and the water was gone . When I took the shells off to eat the eggs, I had burnt them. I had no other choice but to eat them, being unemployed and hungry I have to eat to live.

I think a lot of people are forgetting parts of their lives like I forgot my eggs. Look at all the people who have money in big banks and have left their money there. Those eggs are getting burnt by the powers that be by outrageous charges. Time to move your eggs to a better stove people. Look at the people who forgot to pay attention to their investments and left them alone and lost their money. We all need to watch our eggs or they will get burnt.

If you forget to take your dog out to use the bathroom, he will leave a pile on the carpet ( the dog just gave you brunt eggs). If your child forgets to do their homework, they will get a bunch of burnt eggs for grades (F). If you forget to put gas in the car or change the oil , you will look like a burnt egg on the side of the road. Don’t forget about family and friends, or you will have a bunch of burnt eggs ( upset people).

Washington and the very wealthy have forgotten the majority of us. Now we are their burnt eggs (we are fed up with being ignored). Those upper class snobs need to take care of their eggs ( in their case it’s caviar ) or they will have burnt eggs ( an angry bunch of people).

Every person in this world needs to be observant of their eggs in all parts of their lives so they don’t have to eat burnt eggs ( have a messed up situation).

QUOTE OD THE DAY ; Dreams whet your appetite, but goals make you hungry. ( Josie Bissett ).

Slow Your Role.

20 Sep

How many of you out there hear people talking about what they do not have ? Do they act like they are happy or upset that they do not have what they want ? I have noticed that the ones who keep chasing after what they do not have , they are never happy. As soon as they get what they have been wanting, they will turn their head and look in another direction and find something else they want. They then are not happy again.

If you are never satisfied with what you have, you will always be upset. Look at people who have 6 cars or 80 pair of jeans. They seem to have this dislike of themselves deep down inside of them. What about the person who works 12-16 hour days. There are those who are always chasing after that extra client . They are not happy with the business they have ( now if you’re losing business and about to go under, then get those customers ). There are those who have 5 kinds of phones and computers and they are wanting the next great gadget. They act unhappy until they get it ( just for about 5 minutes then they are not happy ).

Teach yourself to be happy with what you have. If you change your behavior, your attitude will follow. Heck I still have the boob tube type of T.V. I am very happy with what I have. I am not worried about what I do not have. I have ripped up furniture. I am happy with what I have, I could have no furniture ( homeless ). I am happy even though I have no job at the moment. It could be worse, I could be 6 feet under.

I had this good friend who use to always say; “you want some, you got none.” That saying falls into this subject. It means you are always chasing after what you do not have , and to be happy with what you got. So be happy with where you are at, not where you wish you were at . Don’t get me wrong goals are good. They give you something to live for. But be happy in the moment you are in right now.

QUOTE OF THE DAY ; Dreams are what get you started. Disipline is what keeps you going. ( Jim Ryan ).

Death Penalty, for it or against it ?

16 Sep

Now this is a touchy subject. The death penalty. Are you for it or against it ? There are those out there who think it is a great deterrent on crime. I may be wrong, but all of the stats I read on it says other wise. State that has the death penalty have higher crime rates than those without it. Think about it they are criminals. If this punishment worked, then there would be no more murders.

How do most of you feel about innocent people being put down ? There are those out there who say ,” well mistakes happen.” I learn from my mistakes and I hate to repeat mistakes. In this case the same mistake has been repeated way to many times.

Most of the people who are for the death penalty are against abortion. They say well a child has done nothing wrong and deserves to live. Well so do the innocent people being charged with a crime they did not commit. These are the same people who say the government needs to cut cost. Do you know it cost more to keep someone on death row then to keep them in prison for life? Well it does with all the appeals and the process it take to put someone down.

Here is a question for those who are for this penalty. If your son , daughter or mom was wrongfully accused of a crime they did not commit, would you want to see then put in the chair and have the lights turned out on their parade? If you say yes, you are a sick ass person. If you say no not this one time because they are family, then you are one big ass hypocrite. Because everyone is someones family. You can not have it both ways !

I for one am against the death penalty. I would rather have 1000 guilty people in prison for life then to have an innocent person put under all because “it’s the law”.

Also Putting someone down will not bring back the dead from the past. But it may have just ended another innocent persons life. When will this crazy circle end?

We are up there with China, Iran, Iraq ( I think ) , North Korea as far as numbers goes with federal death penalties. Do you want to be in that catagory ?

This is the way I look at it and you may have another way at looking at it. I am open minded about other people having thier point of view, are you?

Don’t forget to vote. Thank you. http://about.me/chadjohnson1

QUOTE OF THE DAY ; Forever be a dreamer ! When your memories outnumber your dreams, the end is near. ( Edge Keynote ).

Don’t be owned ever again !

11 Sep

Have you ever had a day where someone at work or in your life made you so mad or hurt you could not think straight ? Well that is about to change after you read this blog ( I hope, we need love and peace in our lives ).

The anger or hate you have for the person or situation has your thoughts all wrapped up . You can’t even see straight or think without getting a headache. You are out of energy because your body is full of rage. Sit back and think out that. Did you have a day full of accomplishments that day or week or month ( however mad you let yourself be) ? I will put all of my savings ( 25 cents ) on that bet, and say no. You probably had a rotten time with all of that anger, upset thoughts and rage  running through your D.N.A..

Next time you get mad or upset at a boss, coach, friend, or loved one you have 5 minutes to be mad. Then it’s time to move on with a clear head so you can own your life. You see when you are consumed with all that negative thoughts or actions , that person or situation own you. They are controlling your every move and thought without them being there.

Do you want someone to have that much control over your life that it affects the way you breath or lack of sleep you get from the blood boiling in your body. Heck it may even cause a heart attack. Who wants to live like that? Someone who you have issues with can ruin your life and they may not even be there physically , but they are there in your head.

Make today the last day ANYONE in this world has ownership over you. Have just 5 minutes of anger and move on, you are better than that. You own yourself and be proud of who you are. Take ownership of who you are and how happy you want to be.

When you are mad your breathing controls your emotions, so next time you’re mad slow your breathing down and relax the shoulders and stomach. Just say to yourself , ” it will get better”. Misery loves company, so maybe they are miserable and want to see you in a crappy life. Don’t fall for their games.

GRUDGES KILL, live your life anger and hate free. Love yourself enough to not think about the hate and irritation they throw your way.

QUOTE OF THE DAY ; Believe it ! High expectations are the key to everything. ( Sam Walton ).


Thanksgiving dinner with the crazy family members.

6 Sep

How many times have you been to a family gathering and you got the family members who drive you crazy ? You know the two uncles who argue that one is smarter or stronger than the other ? Yet they have the same GPA or can lift the same amount of weight , just on different days. Or that uncle who walks in with a twelve pack of beer ? By the fourth beer he is funny ,yet not loud and obnoxious yet. By the eighth beer you want him to shut up because the stuff he says makes no sense . He is very loud and the only one laughing at his jokes , or the only one who answers his own questions .

Everytime I hear a Republican or Democrat talk, they are the exact same way like those two uncles who argue as to who is better. Both parties while on T.V. or on the radio sound just the same. They have the same ideas , same complaints of the other party. They both sound like a bunch of babies who can not get their way at the dinner table.

Then you have the Tea Party. They say such crazy wacky things that they remind me of that drunk uncle who is funny at first then turns into a pain in the neck. When they talk at first you kinda giggle to yourself , but 3 minutes into their talking you hope they get a bug in their throat so they shut up.

We are the people who sit at the kids table ( voters with no voice in the matter ) , and we get to hear all of the loud noise as we try to watch the football game. How come this country has turned into a crazy Thanksgiving Dinner and not a peaceful family get together ?

Next time they are talking , close your eyes and forget the (R), (D) , or (I) behind the name. You will not be able to tell the clowns apart. Maybe that is why the Beltway around Washington D.C. is a circle, they keep chasing each other around the dinner table. They get nothing done but make us kids at the kiddie table ( voters ) mad and not want to finish dinner ( listen to the fools talk).

For thos of you who are the ones who believe what your uncles are saying is true at  dinner , then you are the cousin who goes out back and smokes your weed you have in your back pocket .

Let’s hope we start having a normal Thanksgiving Dinner some time soon. Or most of this country will not be able to eat dinner at all.

QUOTE OF THE DAY ; Most people don’t aim to high and miss , they aim to low and hit . ( Bob Moawad ).

Land of the Lost.

2 Sep

If you are ever lost in an area you are not familiar with, act like you know where you are going. From all of my years on this crazy planet , I have seen some evil things happen to lost souls . How many of you out there have been lost and asked for directions ? If you are reading this or got to where you are going , then you are one of the lucky ones.

I have always said ” if you are lost , you are not “. That means act like you are part of the community and like you know what you are doing or going. I say this because too many times people can sense when a person is lost or scared and will jack with you. Like how dogs smell fear and attack. If you are in a city and your actions show you are not from there , you will get hooked ( robbed or attacked). How many times does you hear stories on news about out of towners getting slid on ? Or people disappearing and never seen again ? Don’t ever act lost and think you will be okay . Yes there are good people out there in this world , but times are tough and people are desperate and will act nuttier  now then ever before .  Never show fear or the dog ( crook ) will jump on you .

If you ask for help, the person helping may be leading you into a bear trap you can not get out of. So find your own way out of the woods .  Back track if you have to or keep stepping in the same line you was going into . This is good advice for any time in your life . Go with your gut feelings and stay the course . Just because your neighborhood or little town is cool, does not mean the other areas will be kind to you. I may not have a college degree , but I do know how to act like I am from your neck of the woods. You got to act like a chameleon and blend in .  Have a back up plan for lost times .

This is just my advice and not all advice works for everyone. Be safe and enjoy life . Stop the hate .

QOUTE OF THE DAY ; At least once a day , allow yourself the freedom to think and dream for yourself . ( Albert Einstein ).

A lesson from the wild.

25 Aug

The more I sit and watch Petes Pond in Africa on ustream. The more I notice how the wild is more civil than the civilised world of humans. There are a bunch of different kinds of wild animals coming up to the pond drinking water and leaving the other animals alone. You do not see Impalas’ ganging up on Wildebeests’ and killing them or Elephants’ going after the Birds’. You don’t see Warthogs’ going after the Monkeys for no reason. They all just do their thing and move on. The only time a wild animal will attack is for food or protect their young ones’.

The human world there are laws made to make this world civil. If humans acted like wild animals’ we would need no laws. Humans’ will attack others because of the way they look, act, or think. You don’t see wild animals doing that. You see countries promote ” peace” by starting wars. Now that is so out there I do not understand that concept. You do not hear about animals doing drive by shootings ( attacks ), or with birds doing fly by’s. You don’t hear about bears from Canada going into Minnesota and attack them because they want to live in their woods.  You don’t see Robbins’ flying after Sparrows’ because they do not look or act like them. The only animal I see acting like humans are dogs. But dogs are raised and live with humans. Go figure.

This is just my observation and I am sure someone out there may think or say I am wrong. But look at all the trouble humans bring on themselves for thinking in a selfish way. Wild animals just leave others alone. If you do not believe me watch Petes’ Pond on this internet site. http://www.ustream.tv/petespond . Just as I say this someone will watch this and see animals just fighting like crazy. 😉

Maybe humans could learn from wild animals, and act more civil.

QUOTE OF THE DAY ; Some things have to be believed to be seen. ( Ralph Hodgson ).

Problem solved ! Mistake fixed !

24 Aug

How many fo you out there in LA LA land have done something and found out it was a mistake or became a problem ? How did you feel after this happened ? Did you get mad ? Did you get embarrassed ? Did you almost get hurt ? Or did someone tell you the hundredth time you messed ?

If I get mad I might make the same mistake again . But if I get embarrassed I will not do the same mistake a second time. To me embarrassment is the key to getting things fixed. I hate getting so embarrassed that my skin gets hot and changes color, or that I start to sweat in areas of my body that the public can not see.  To me anger takes my mind off of the mistake I did , so that is why I may make the same mistake a second time. Embarrassment has you drop your ego and you realise what you did was wrong. Anger is a wall to block you from dropping your ego and accepting the fact you messed up.

Another way to fix a problem or a mistake is getting hurt. Either physically or emotionally. Let’s say you are on a ladder and you try to cut corners to get done faster. You end up falling and breaking a bone. That will make you remember not to cut corners. Or you end up dating someone who at first , you over look their faults. Down the road you have your hands covering your face saying , “why me ? ” You find out the hard way this person is crazy , and you say “I’ll never do this again !” Those are two fast ways to fix a mistake or problem.

Are you the person who really does not care if you mess up and you are told a 1,000 times how to do it right ? Yet you still mess up ! This area falls into the child mind-set. Look at how many times you have to tell your kids to clean up or do this or do that . Let’s be honest they could care less . There are adults who are the same way. Like I tell my daughter, ” you keep making the same mistake, you will get the same result .”

QOUTE OF THE DAY ; Realize that nothing is too good to be true . ( Kobi Yamada ).


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